It’s Okay To Not Be Okay


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During a difficult period, everyone wants to know how to feel better. What’s the fastest way to feel better? So, we’re here to tell you what the big secret is on how to feel better. Permission and Acceptance. The biggest secret to feeling better is giving yourself permission. Permission to feel sad, mad, frustrated, hopeless, defeated, overwhelmed. It’s okay to not be okay. The sooner you grant yourself permission to be to feel everything you’re feeling, the sooner you can start moving forward. But sometimes permission isn’t so easily granted and you need a little bit of extra support. So what do you do?

Seek Help

Friends and family are there for a reason and they can’t help you if they don’t know that you need help. As hard as it may be to seek out help, no matter how big or small the request may be, it’s worth it and necessary. Seeking help is a powerful action that can help you feel powerful during times when you feel overall powerless. Speak up for what you need so people can provide the help and support you need right now. Additionally, you may want to seek out the help of a counselor or therapist to help you further sort out what you’re feeling.

Take a Step Back

It’s okay to cut back on activities, friends and family time when you’re going through something difficult. This is a period for reflection and if that means keeping to yourself for a while, then take that time. Never feel guilty for taking time to care for yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically.

Accept What You’re Feeling

Whether you think you should or shouldn’t be feeling ‘not okay’ doesn’t take away from the fact that you don’t feel okay. And that’s okay. As hard as you might try, your feelings can’t be controlled 24/7 365. When you get stuck on the shame and guilt around how you’re feeling, it prevents you from moving forward.


You can’t expect to feel okay all the time. No matter how amazing and cushy your life may be, there are going to be periods where you feel unhappy, sad, undeserving, and anxious. This is okay. But you don’t have to feel this way forever. Through permission and acceptance, you can start moving forward and feeling better. If you’re still struggling, it’s okay to seek help. Call us today to schedule an appointment with one of our counselors so you can start feeling like you again.