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Do You Have the Winter Blues or Seasonal Affective Disorder?

It’s cold, dark, and dreary out there. You probably want to stay in bed where you’re cozy and warm with Netflix to keep you company. But if you’re losing interest in your hobbies and don’t seem to have any motivation or energy, you may be dealing with seasonal affective disorder (SAD), a type of depression triggered by the lack of sunlight during the winter.

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Is forgiveness necessary to heal from an abusive relationship?

Many people believe forgiveness is a necessary step in the healing process. It’s part of our culture and religion, and it’s often encouraged by mental health specialists as well.

But what happens when forgiving someone becomes the equivalent of giving them permission to hurt you again?

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Healing From An Abusive Relationship

Many people believe forgiveness is a necessary step in the healing process. It’s part of our culture and religion, and it’s often encouraged by mental health specialists as well.

But what happens when forgiving someone becomes the equivalent of giving them permission to hurt you again?

In this blog post, we’ll look at some of the reasons why forgiveness isn’t necessary to for you to move on and what type of forgiveness can bring peace of mind.

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Is your career making you unhappy?

Here are a few clues on how you can solve it.

Money alone doesn’t make us happy. But at the same time, is it realistic to expect for our careers to make us feel accomplished and satisfied all the time? What happens when we’re new at something and, while we’re keen to learn, we’re by no means masters of the craft?

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3 Reasons Why People Overspend To Feel Better

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With 80% of Americans in debt, living beyond our means seems to be a national sport.

But how does this impact our long-term financial security? And what happens when we can no longer catch up?

 Many of us end up ordering fast food or overspending on cars and clothing, which gives us temporary joy but can lead to long-term consequences.

 In this short article, we’ll take a look at the 3 reasons why people overspend and how it’s often linked to our emotions and self-esteem.

1. Overspending is linked to a low self-esteem

Many of us fall into the trap of trying to be like everyone else, or better if possible. That means a better car and a better house, and it may also mean getting a loan.

But in many cases, this behavior is linked to not feeling valuable enough unless you possess certain things, as if your worth is directly correlated with how much you own.

This behavior can easily destroy your life if you don’t find other ways to look at yourself in a favorable light, because there’s no end to how much deep insecurities can make us spend.

2. Mental accounting is painful

The truth is that looking at our bank statements each month and maintaining a budget can be a daily reminder that we aren’t that well-off.

In many cases, however, this can be the opposite. We may not let ourselves spend that much, and in the long-term, we’ll have more financial security than someone who is chasing instant gratification.

You have to keep in mind that most people feel the same as you do when looking at bank statements. It’s far easier to ignore it, but enduring the pain of acknowledging that you need to make some budget cuts will save you a lot of hassle later in life.

3. We feel that we need to reward ourselves after doing great work

Most of us work hard for the money we make, and, yes, we do deserve a treat once in a while. But if you work hard every month, does that mean that you have to treat yourself each month as well?

This behavior can easily snowball into overspending on expensive clothing, meals, and electronics as a way to make yourself feel better for working hard. The trick is to find ways to reward yourself that cost less or are free.

Do you love exquisite meals? Learn to cook them yourself.  

Are you a voracious reader? Go to the library instead of taking trips to the bookstore.

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 If you want to find out more about what triggers overspending and how you can control it, feel free to contact us with your questions.


3 unexpected ways to bring more purpose to your life



Waking up every morning and not knowing where your life is headed, or not knowing where it should be headed, is frightening. We all crave purpose, and when we don’t have it, our entire existence seems to appear meaningless and unimportant to us.

In this article, you’ll find some of the unexpected ways you can discover your purpose.

1. What values, traits, or actions does your ideal self live by?

We all have this ideal self we aspire to become, and when the disparity between who we are in the present and who we want to become is too big, low-self esteem creeps in.

In some cases, the ideal self is overly inflated. To avoid this, business owners use the acronym S.M.A.R.T for setting achievable goals as opposed to unrealistic standards that might cause them to fall flat on their faces.

But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t aspire to reach your ideal, especially if your goals are realistic. By attempting to get to know your ideal self better, you can get a sense of what’s important to you and what’s purposeful.

For example, if your ideal self would spend more time helping those in need or building a business around helping others thrive, what may bring you long-term satisfaction is dedicating more time to serving underprivileged communities.

2. Experiment with different courses of action

Taking action can help you feel more purposeful and confident in your own strengths once you realize you can do something of value.

But that’s not all. You may think a certain career path or form of activism will be rewarding, but there’s only one way to find out if it suits you: by trying it.

Many people end up switching careers, going to college after their 30’s, or experimenting with new lifestyles to find what makes them feel accomplished and purposeful.

3. Ask yourself what’s wrong with the world and attempt to change it

Many of us live in frustration due to external factors. In some cases, it could be the negative people around us, unfair legislation, poverty, or censorship.

No matter what bothers you, always keep in mind that in order to change others, you have to change yourself first.

Wrapping up

A sense of purpose makes us feel happy and fulfilled, but sometimes it’s hard to look inside ourselves and find out what career path suits us best, where we should invest most of our time, and what our true values and motivations are.

If you struggle with finding purpose, don’t hesitate to contact a professional for advice and counseling.




When Stress Is Just Too Much



Do you often feel overwhelmed by work, family issues or health problems?

Believe it or not, over 8 million Americans suffer from serious psychological stress. This can lead to other stress-related illnesses, such as hypertension and elevated blood sugar levels.

To help you out, let’s look at 6 creative ways you can cope with daily stress.

1. Read a fantasy book

If you’re in a situation that seems inescapable at the moment, why not use the power of fantasy to get away from your daily burdens?

Many fantasy books have the power of showing us beautiful, unimaginable worlds and creatures. But they also contain characters that show unexpected resilience and inner strength, traits that inspire many of us.

2. Take a walk

Taking a walk not only relieves stress by helping your body soak up Vitamin D from the sun or get much-needed exercise, but it has another function as well: it keeps you away from unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as binge eating, smoking, etc.

3. Watch your favorite TV show or series

If you have the time, why not watch one of your favorite tv shows or series?

It can relax you, and who knows, maybe the plotline will offer a new perspective on how you can look at your current situation.

4. Clean your room

For some people, cleaning, especially with music in the background, is quite relaxing. Plus, you get a mild exercise session out of it, not to mention the fact that you’ll be proud of how clean and neat your place looks after you finish!

5. Share your thoughts with others

It could a friend, family, or your partner.

Even if you don’t have someone you trust at the moment, you can still find someone willing to listen to your sorrows, especially if you have an internet connection.

Free services such as Talk With a Stranger are a great way to have a conversation while staying anonymous.

6. Don’t acknowledge every negative thought that passes through your mind

Mindfulness a practice that teaches you how to passively observe your inner critic without getting trapped in a cycle of going back into the past and reliving traumatic situations or anticipating a grey future.

Wrapping up

Chronic stress can lead to many life-threatening diseases, such as heart disease and diabetes.

If you feel like every day is more of a burden, and that finding enjoyment seems like an impossible task, perhaps you could use some help from a specialist who can teach you how to eliminate the stress from its roots.


How Journaling Can Help You


Journaling has been used for a long time by therapists as a method of identifying mood shifts and the context in which they occur. It’s also helpful for figuring out what situations drive negative thinking.

 However, journaling isn’t just a way for us to systematically record our thoughts in an attempt to understand ourselves. It’s also a safe way to vent.

A loyal friend

Like everyone else, you may have periods in your life when you feel alone and you have nobody to listen to your problems. A diary is a great way to vent and share your thoughts, even when you don’t have people close to you who understand and appreciate you.


Writing in a diary will help you experience relief while keeping your secrets and thoughts safe from the eyes of the world.

Track how you’ve changed and make note of your progress

We all change over the years. And one of the best ways to look at where you were a few years or even months ago is by re-reading your diary.


Keeping a diary can reveal so much about how certain events in our lives change our mindset and actions. These are changes that otherwise happen so slowly that we would otherwise not notice them.


But a few journal entries might shed some light on how your personality and thinking patterns have changed over time and where you’ve taken steps in the right direction.

Helps you achieve your goals

Goals and desires that are written down are more likely to come true. This happens because when you write them down, you externalize them. Your dreams and goals suddenly become closer to you. And having them in a diary works as a reminder that will motivate you to work harder to reach them.


Many entrepreneurs use journaling for this purpose alone. They write their daily and weekly goals down along with the actions that need to be taken in order to achieve them.

Wrapping up

Keeping a journal is perhaps one of the oldest ways of coping with depression, loneliness, and anxiety. And it’s no wonder it’s so effective. When you write your thoughts down, you detach yourself from them.


If you have difficulties socializing with your peers, making friends, or coping with depression, journaling can help. However, so can seeking professional help. Reach out to us with the troubles you face in your life to find out how we can help.


4 Healthy Daily Habits

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In this article, we’re looking at 4 healthy habits that add meaning to your life and make you feel proud of yourself, no matter where you are in your daily journey.

1. Have a routine

Routines make us feel grounded and give us a sense of direction. Plus, the more we work on something consistently, the better we get at it.


But this doesn’t mean you have to make drastic changes to your lifestyle, especially in the beginning. Ask yourself what are a few simple actions you can take on a daily basis to make your life better. And then ask yourself if you’re willing to do them.


It can be as simple as cleaning your room or brushing the teeth more often.

2. Exercise

Exercise doesn’t have to be all sweat and pain. Walking is a form of exercise as well. Getting outside of the house and being exposed to the sun also has a positive impact on our well-being, due to vitamin D.

Not to mention, exercise gets rid of fatigue and strengthens the immune system.

3. Eat well

The role of diet is often underestimated in relation to mental health. But there are many studies that show a link between diet and mood.


Also, inflammatory foods have a negative on the brain. Specialists go as far as talking about the link between a diet high in sugar and certain forms of dementia.

4. Write down your goals

The first step to reaching our destination is being on the right road. Writing down our goals helps us get a better idea of where we’re going.


Some goals seem scary to write down because we’re afraid they may never come true. But in order to make progress, we have to confront our deepest desires, no matter how foolish they seem. In the end, our wants shed some light on who we want to be.

Wrapping Up

Not having much to look forward to doesn’t necessarily mean we’re depressed. We all go through tough phases in our lives when we aren’t stimulated enough by our environment.


However, if you still struggle with being content with your life or finding meaning, you may benefit from talking with a specialist about the things you can do to improve your day-to-day experience.






Why We Get Bored and When It Can Be a Sign of Something More Serious



We all get bored from time to time.Boredom itself isn’t a harmful feeling. Mere existence doesn’t satisfy us, and the yearning for something engaging and meaningful in our lives is perhaps what has driven our species forward.

Studies show that there’s a 5% decrease in the brain activity when we’re bored. We strengthen our notion of the self by reflecting on past events or imagining future scenarios.

Our response to boredom and our chances of getting bored are linked to our personalities. For example, introverts are more likely to enjoy spending time by themselves, and thus require less stimulation to stay focused. Extroverts, on the other hand, are always looking for new stimuli and are more likely to get bored as a result.

Stay with us to find out to find out when boredom can cause issues and when it’s a perfectly normal feeling.

Boredom may be a sign of ADHD or ADD

Difficulty to concentrate on one task is sometimes caused by boredom. People who suffer from ADHD or ADD have issues with their dopamine receptors, so they get bored easier because it’s harder for their brains to get stimulated by a task.

When boredom is paired with impulsivity or hyperactivity, especially over longer periods of time and in many areas of life, you may be showing signs of ADHD or ADD.

Boredom and depression

For many people, boredom, particularly chronic boredom, is part of depression.

If you find yourself unsatisfied almost every day and not stimulated enough to carry out your daily activities, it may be a sign that boredom is leading to your unhappiness. In many cases, it’s a vicious cycle: you get bored, so you’re unhappy, and because you’re unhappy there’s little energy left for you to focus on stimulating activities.

When is it okay to be bored?

A job that consists of repetitive tasks and doesn’t require much creativity or critical thinking can lead to boredom—that is, as long as you keep the job. However, once you’re in a more stimulating environment, the boredom tends to dissipate.

There are countless examples of this. Some people find that striving for realistic goals keeps them away from the claws of boredom.

Unsure about whether your boredom is a normal reaction to your environment or a warning sign? Feel free to reach out to us with your questions here!


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