4 Signs It’s Time to See a Therapist About Your Perfectionism


There’s nothing wrong with taking pride in your work and striving to do your best. Everyone, to some degree, suffers from perfectionism. If you’re not sure if you do think about a time you were afraid to start something because the conditions weren’t perfect. Or a time when you thought something looked like fun but you were afraid to try. Perfectionism can manifest in different ways and it can truly suck the fun and the life out of you. Perfectionism can cause depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and other mental health issues. The following are some warning signs to look for:


1. Setting Extremely High Standards for Yourself

Do you find yourself giving your friends and family a pass in life but holding yourself to completely different standards that are almost impossible to live up to? Having high standards for yourself is not the problem, it’s the unrealistic expectations to never fail or mess up that makes these standards so dangerous and impossible.


2. Frequent Procrastination

Perfectionism often manifests as procrastination because you’re afraid to move forward with something out of fear of nothing being “perfect.” This can cause problems with you achieving your highest goals and even simple daily goals.


3. Spending too Much Time Completing a Task

If it’s taking you hours to complete a simple task you may be letting your perfectionism get the best of you. Your excessively high standards are preventing you from completing tasks in a timely manner and moving on with your day.


4. Ruminating Over Mistakes

Reflection is an important part of life and it’s good to reflect on your past mistakes. However, ruminating over these mistakes and beating yourself up about it could be a negative result of your perfectionism. What’s done is done and beating yourself up now about it won’t change the outcome. All you can do is learn from your mistakes and do better next time.


Imperfection is what makes every person unique. Mistakes and failures are opportunities for you to learn and grow when you can view them in a positive way. Unfortunately, perfectionism can capture your essence and hijack your mind, making you feel inadequate and a failure. Perfectionism effects men and women of all ages and at every stage of life. If you’re noticing perfectionism negatively impacting your life, you might benefit from counseling. Schedule an appointment and get your life back! You deserve to live happily, imperfections and all.